TDPA Poems
Erika Guardado Lara
12th Grade
Reality
Writing is a way I could communicate my feelings without necessarily talking. It's a way where you can really understand the pain I'm trying to form in words. It gives me the power to have my voice heard and you're damn right it's going to be heard today…
What I'm trying to say is.. I guess this is my way of coming out the closet..
I come from a really Catholic and old school Salvadoran and Mexican family and SURPRISE SURPRISE!!! they don't accept “those kinds of people”... as they like to say.
"Check it out! How ugly two men look together in hand "
'Why are you hugging your friend like that? Don't say you are a Lesbian "
"You know if you are gay you go to hell, what if?"
"I will not deny you but I am disappointed that you can like women"
"You have a bad spirit, just pray to God that he takes it away from you"
"That girl is just confusing you for love"
"Why do you dress as a man! Don't tell me you want to be a man! "
"It is only a woman and a man, there is no other sex!"
(“¡Mira eso! Que feo se ve dos hombres juntos en mano ”
‘¿Por qué abrazas a tu amiga de ese modo? No mi digas que eres Lesbiana”
“Tu sabes si eres gay vas al infierno , ¿que si?”
“No te negaré pero estoy decepcionado que puedes gustarte las mujeres”
“Tu tienes un espíritu malo solo rezale a Dios que te lo quita”
“Esa niña solo te está confundiendo de amor”
“Porqué te vistes de hombre! No me digas que quieres hacer hombre!”
“Solo es mujer y hombre, no hay otro sexo!”)
Those are the few phrases I heard while growing up and trust me that's not even half of the shit that happened. Throughout my childhood and into my teenage years I started developing a hate towards myself . I would ask myself..
“Why do I feel attracted to her, I shouldn't be”
“Is it really a phrase? I hope so I don't want to disappointment my family”
“Am I really an abomination of hell”
“God why did you make me like this?”
“If I date boys, maybe it'll go away?”
“Why the hell cant I change this?!”
“Is there something wrong with me, my church says its a “disorder” of nature”
“I won't have my family in my wedding because of who I love”
“I'm going to be disowned and not have the opportunity to see my siblings again for who I love”
Can you relate to the pain I had to go through and still go through. This is not all fun and games were you can joke about your friends saying “I'm tired of men, I'm going to go date a girl its “easier” with girls” just cause a boy didn't want to go on a date with you or saying “i'M sPiCy sTrAiGhT” or “if you give the homie a kiss you're gay” and all those fucken jokes you make about “changing” your sexuality for a day ! IT'S NOT A CHOICE. I didn't choose to be this way. I had multiple times where I just wanted to be straight cause I was sick and tired of all the toxicness and standards this society has for me, that my family has for me. You think I would choose to go through all this pain I have endured over these years? People would really go out there way to say mean comments like “f*g” or a creation of a “abomination”. The church will seem like they accept your sexuality but go out there ways to tell you you can't experience love or marriage because of who I am. My own youth group will sit in a circle and closeted me had to hear all those harmful comments without being able to defend myself. “Oo its because they have a disorder” “Ooo if they came out Ill say I wont support you for going out with the same sex cause my religion doesn't support that, but ill respect you still” “Its weird, maybe she has a crush on me cause you know… she's gay”. When you have some representation in a kids cartoon or any show instead of all people being proud about it, some people will go out there ways saying that the show is harming our youth to being gay or that its against nature. “Why would they go out and do that kind of stuff? Is gay marriage enough? Why are they asking for more”. You never know our pain and how it still affects us till this day. We are just loud about it and will always be loud about it. Enough being quiet. You had your chance to beat us down and torture us, now it's our chance to fight back and be happy to love. My community is strong and will continue to be strong. This is just my side out of the million people trying to voice their pain and say WE WILL LOVE WHO WE WANT TO LOVE. Sit back and be mad about it because we are just moving forward and being who we were meant to be. Love is love. Stop spreading hate.